A Owning and enhancing our Mental Health
Everyday, we grapple with mental health issues, sometimes successfully, and at other times not so navigating our lives, we cannot over-emphasize the importance of a healthy mind. A healthy mind enables us to perform tasks with decreased effort, it reduces significantly, destructive unwelcome thoughts, and generally it enables us greater satisfaction in life. I fully embrace the World Health Organisation (WHO), definition of wellness as “a state of well-being in which the individual realises his or her own abilities, can cope with the normal stresses of life, can work productively and fruitfully, and is able to make a contribution to his or her community”. Through Psychotherapy/ Psychological Counselling, I strive to help build strategies of taking care of our minds and thus our greater mental health.
Increasingly, we live stressful lives. The stresses may be:
- losses in significant relationships (marital, family, work related)
- psychological adjustment to changes in the status of our health
- traumatic effects of violence, the unexpected loss of loved one, physical assault, sexual assault, robbery, and verbal and emotional abuse.
times of elevated stress, managing our emotions can be especially difficult. We may feel removed and distant from others, our energy levels may dip significantly, we may find ourselves less productive at work, or overwork in an attempt to run away from our own unpleasant emotions. Sometimes we may self-treat by abusing substances such as alcohol, recreational drugs, prescribed or non-prescribed medication.
Enlisting the support of a psychotherapist is a worthwhile investment in ourselves in managing these difficult emotions.
At times, our self-esteem may sabotage us, and for some of us chronically so. Self-esteem is the relationship that we have with ourselves – in other words, the value we put upon ourselves and the feelings we have about ourselves. It may let us down by eating into our important relationships, our work, or other aspects of our lives. For some of us, loving ourselves is a conscientious exercise, and the good news is that it can be learnt through developing certain practices.
A Low SELF-ESTEEM
- Feeling inadequate generally (doubt self; underestimate your capabilities)
- Persistent feelings of self-blame & guilt
- Putting Yourself Down
- Seeking Pity from Others
- A pessimistic attitude towards life
- Feelings of Smallness
- Persistent criticism of self or of others
- Difficulty in loving & embracing self/ or loving Self with conditions
A High SELF-ESTEEM
- Recognizing own Personal Power
- An Optimistic attitude towards life
- Feeling good about self generally
- Knowing one’s strengths and celebrating them
- Knowing one’s limitations and not criticizing self for them
- Loving Self without conditions
- Assuming responsibility for Self
The support of a mental health practitioner can be useful bridge in developing practices that enhance our self-esteem, and in learning how to identify situations and people that enhance it rather than chip it away.